Your happiness in focus

We should not be in the business of making anyone else feel better. People have a way of making you feel you need to appease them and get their stamp of approval. They can make you feel like what they say and do are correct… but that is their standard. But guess what, their standard is not the end all be all… it’s not our job to appease them nor make them feel good, successful, or happy. Our own individual job is to make ourselves happy, come into our full being and purpose. Our happiness hinges upon us. On us finding our joy, peace, and contentment that is long lasting, anyway we can. We find our happiness when we are centered and grounded in our core, our foundation… it is our equilibrium, balance. Mine is in God, but yours maybe in something else. I pray yours is everlasting, as my God is. 

And contrary to what society says about finding that someone who completes you or how love songs make you believe you have to make the other person happy, no, stop it. It’s crazy to try to make someone happy… it’s like riding a bike up a mountain backwards. It just can’t be done. Why? Because the minute you make that person unhappy by doing what makes you happy you will be charged with rejection or met with contempt or even a feeling of something is wrong with you… when nothing is wrong with you but everything wrong with the other person’s inability to know and love themselves. 

Many love the idea of making someone else happy or being with someone who can make them happy because this way they can excuse themselves from doing the work of growing up. They allow themselves to be buried in another rather than confront the things that is keeping them from being the best version of themselves/ourselves. Focusing on another keeps you from focusing on you and walking in your purpose. You not only cheat yourself, the one you say you love, but all those that were counting on the real version of you to introduce them to the real version of them. You are essential to another but not as a play toy. You are for the greater good. Your “fearfully and wonderfully made self” is absolutely what so many need to be inspired and motivated to come into their own. Don’t block someone else’s blessing in order to live in false happiness and untrue love.